What’s the difference between staying stagnant and unlocking new opportunities? Taking the first step to build up your network. Networking anxiety is very real for many professionals, yet networking is a crucial skill for career growth. 

If the thought of networking makes your palms sweat and your heart race, you’re not alone. Many professionals report networking anxiety and finding it challenging to navigate social gatherings and initiate conversations with strangers. However, the benefits of networking—such as gaining insights, finding mentors, and discovering new opportunities—are invaluable for career advancement.

So, where do you start? Begin by setting a manageable goal for yourself. For example, commit to introducing yourself to just one person at your next networking event or industry conference. Focus on making a genuine connection rather than trying to impress. Approach the conversation with curiosity and a desire to learn about the other person’s experiences and interests.

It’s normal to feel nervous or unsure about striking up conversations with strangers, but remember, everyone is here for the same reason: to make connections. Start with a simple greeting or a genuine compliment about something you admire about the person or their work. You’ll be surprised at how quickly the conversation flows once you take that first step.

It’s natural to feel anxious about being liked or making a good impression, but remember that networking is not about being universally liked by everyone you meet. Release the pressure to conform to others’ expectations and instead focus on being authentic and genuine. The stories we tell ourselves about needing to be liked can hold us back from taking risks and putting ourselves out there.

Challenge those stories and remind yourself that it’s okay if not everyone resonates with you. What matters most is finding genuine connections with people who align with your values and professional goals. Embrace the nerves and discomfort as a sign of growth, and celebrate each small step you take outside your comfort zone.

And here’s a secret: most people are just as eager to meet new people as you are. They appreciate the effort it takes to break the ice and welcome genuine interactions. So, don’t let networking anxiety hold you back. Embrace the opportunity to expand your network, exchange ideas, and discover common interests.

Work WITH your fear

Ultimately, networking is a skill that improves with practice and persistence. You might not stop feeling anxiety, but you can shift your mindset to embrace that fear. Remember that bravery is not the absence of fear, it’s feeling the fear and doing it anyway. By taking that first step, and giving yourself small goals, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities and lay the foundation for long-term success in your career.

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